After the death of my husband, I realized that my life had to have a new pattern, completely different. In order to be happy, I had to feel useful. I found that guidance could always be obtained if honestly sought. So I have let go, and day by day I build a new life, new friends, and deeper interests. I believe if we can honestly become humble, honestly give up self-will, vanity, egotism, and selfishness, there is a plan for each one of us.